I believe that we could create our ow happiness. What we want to feel ; positive or negative.
We must learn to love ourselves before requesting others to love us.
Do not judge ourselves as negative but see as positive and learn to accept whatever being self.
Proud to be self and never compare to anyone. When we see someone nice then happy for them and look back to self and tell to our own "I am also nice".
Do not under estimate ourselves and also not too confident that self is the highest of everyone.
